“We find peace when we stop trying to defend the main character [of our stories].” – Don Miguel Ruiz and Barbara Emrys in The Three Questions
In case it’s not obvious, we are the main character of our stories, or rather, the person we imagine and project ourselves to be is the main character. In other words, we find peace when we let go of needing to be perceived as any one way instead of another and when we let go of needing to think of ourselves as any one way instead of another.
The above quote also got me to thinking about an earlier lesson learned, inspired by Esther Perel, where I remembered that relationships are our story. If relationships are our story, and we find peace when we stop trying to defend our stories’ main character, then perhaps we will also find more peace in our relationships when we stop internally and externally defending who we think we are.